Angelica & Olivia
SIOUX FALLS, SOUTH DAKOTA
"I may never be sure of who or what God is in tangible form, but I do know that the universe makes no mistakes, and our love is definitely real, and worthy of recognition and celebration. This is a testament to the love that this universe has to offer, and how it can be shared and cherished. I know I have unmistakably chosen the soul meant for me."
Tell us your love story!
Angelica: When I thought about what went into loving and being loved, I wished for it with an unending desperation. I thought I knew exactly what it was I was looking for. But I was not finding it because the universe had other plans for me. When Olivia came into my life 4 and 1/2 years ago, I had stopped searching. I had started to believe that I was destined for a comfortable solitude. Olivia was the light I needed. A quick and brave Twitter DM led us to this. I knew I wanted to spend forever with her when she did not ask for anything other than my presence and love. In return, she did not only give me that, but she offered me a gentle patience and loyalty beyond any I have known. She restored my faith in something so pure and necessary and banished my fears that had me in hiding. With Olivia I have never felt a push or pull, rather a wholeness I had never experienced in my life on any level. Not once have I ever had doubts. She has supported me when my own family was not ready to, and she took care of me through the most difficult time I have ever had to experienced. But that is not the only reason why I have asked her to marry me. I asked her to marry me because I know who I am through her. She has taught me so much about myself. For example, I did not know that I could call a person 'home,' and REALLY feel it when I needed shelter and the grounds around me were unsteady. I did not know that my heart was able to experience a love so full and beautiful. I did not know that I could ignore my fears and leap toward something so grand and divine as love. But most importantly, I did not know that I could truly be SO HAPPY. I may never be sure of who or what God is in tangible form, but I do know that the universe makes no mistakes, and our love is definitely real, and worthy of recognition and celebration. This is a testament to the love that this universe has to offer, and how it can be shared and cherished. I know I have unmistakably chosen the soul meant for me.
Olivia: Who would have ever imagined that one brave DM sent in 2015 would lead us to where we are standing today. Being with Angelica, I have experienced so much love, support, and growth. I fell in love with her compassion, sincerity, courage, and attentiveness.
What was your ceremony like?
Our ceremony was an intimate mix of both family and friends. We knew early on that our ceremony would not be traditional, for starters, we were both women! That allowed us to play a bit with what we wanted the big day to involve. Olivia and I both deal with anxiety, so all-eyes-on-us was not something we were thrilled for. This is why we chose an intimate setting, with those we love. We incorporated the lasso tradition as it is rooted in my Mexican heritage, and chose to take out any religious rhetoric and focus on love. Growing up Catholic, I always thought that my wedding had to follow certain rules, so letting go of that mindset was a bit challenging, but Olivia was there to help me throughout the entire process.
Is there anything about your wedding that you would do differently?
If we could've changed anything, it would've been to let go of those fears early on so that we would've been able to enjoy the process from beginning to end. However, this is easier said than done :)
What was the most important lesson you learned while planning? What was your biggest wedding planning challenge and how did you overcome it?
The biggest lesson we learned was that in the end, it would be our wedding, so trying to please everyone around us was not a priority. The biggest challenge was moving forward without letting fear of prejudice and hate stop us. We wanted to be so excited about it all, but every time we stepped foot into a bridal shop, it was a nightmare trying to explain that we were both in fact the brides. Because of this, we opted to keep the vendor list small, and focus on ourselves and our love throughout the process. We kept reminding ourselves that others' opinions were simply that.
What does marriage mean to you?
Marriage to us, means the celebration of love. It is a promise to remember where we started, to honor where we are, and to believe in where we are going.
What does pride mean to you?
Pride to us means standing up for love. Although it is not always easy to be out, doing so takes courage and honoring the love that comes out of it is something special and worthy of recognition.
What advice would you like to impart on our Queerly Beloved readers?
We want others to know that at the end of the day, the only thing that matters is the love you share. On the big day, all other worries will dissipate! Also, if something doesn't feel right in the planning phase, you are not obligated to follow through with it. This includes interactions with a vendor, traditional religious customs, familial traditions, etc.