Lyndsey & Kelly
REMBRANDT YARD -
"Set aside time during your day to be present. Stop what you're doing, take a breath and reflect on what it is you're doing today. Take in the faces of your friends and family and really embrace everything that's happening."
Tell us your love story!
We met on Tinder actually! Kelly had moved to Colorado from California about two weeks prior to us meeting. We met for brunch at the Curtis Club in Denver and had two super awkward dates after that! Luckily, by the third date we were both on the same page and there was no question that we liked each other and both wanted to move forward.
We both knew pretty early on that we wanted to get married. We compliment each other extremely well. And compliment is a word that felt right for us. Neither of us thought we needed someone to complete us because we were both badasses. However, we wanted someone who would compliment/support/uplift us in life. Luckily we definitely found that in each other and saw it early on. And also Kelly is super hottt (- Lyndsey).
I (Lyndsey) knew that I wanted to be the one to propose, so I dropped several "hints" that I wouldn't want to be surprised by any "special events." About two years after we met, I proposed to Kelly during brunch at the same restaurant where we met. I surprised her by sneaking out, grabbing my guitar, and coming back in singing a song. I was backed by friends and family and she was completely shocked. She didn't actually say "yes," but it worked out ok!
Tell us about the ceremony!
Lyndsey's niece played the ukulele as the bridal party walked to the front of the art gallery. The flower girl tossed paper petals since our flowers and bouquets were all made out of paper. Kelly was led down the aisle by her father and Lyndsey by hers. Neither father "gave us away," because we're not property! Our close friend officiated and did a beautiful job. We didn't write "vows" but wrote ideals that we wanted to strive to live by like, "It’s one thing to say you love & support someone as they are and it’s quite another to provide them the space to be themselves. I will provide the safe space that you need to be you." We wrote about 10 of those and had our officiant read those aloud. We also took a moment to turn around and look at everyone that was there for us. I (Lyndsey) always hated that most of a ceremony is happening with your back to the audience, so this moment was especially precious to me. We walked back down the aisle to Hall and Oats "You Make My Dreams" and told the wedding party to exit however they wanted to. Most danced. Then we partied! We created playlists in Spotify and played them from a tablet and played it through professional speakers. It worked great.
What traditions or rituals (if any) did you incorporate into your wedding?
Do your research! We looked into why spouses walk down an aisle, why there's a best man, why there's a bouquet toss and honestly the history behind these things is terrifying. So adopt what makes sense and then do what the F*@k you want to. We didn't do many of the traditional ceremonies because of what we discovered.
What was the best part of your wedding?
The best part of our wedding was how intimate it was. It was important to us that our guests were folks that knew us as a couple and who could also serve as witnesses to our union. People who we knew would be there if we needed support and people who would also be there to celebrate with us for the next phases of our lives. This weeded out a TON of people! We ended up with less than 50 people at our wedding including ourselves. At first that seemed scary, because we were nervous that it may seem empty with less guests. It couldn't have been more the opposite! Because there were less people, we got to spend time and connect with everyone in a really relaxed way. And our guests got an opportunity to get to know each other too! We'll see a friend from Minnesota comment on a Facebook post of a friend in Tennessee and it makes us so happy. Lyndsey's best man who lives in Colorado even had dinner with Kelly's bridesmaid in Atlanta. I just don't believe that connections like this can happen at a large wedding. I'm so happy we decided to have a small wedding and really stuck with that plan. Oh and also Kelly's suit...because damn.
What was the most important lesson you learned while wedding planning?
Keep yourselves at the forefront of every decision. We sat down and really thought through what we liked and disliked about weddings we'd been to before and what we our wedding to look like. After that, what we decided was the LAW. There are so many opinions and pressures that can be thrown at you (intentionally or unintentionally) and you have to stay true to your vision. Because nothing else matters other than what you and your partner want your wedding to be. You get one opportunity to have the day you planned, so make sure it's exactly what you both want.
What was your biggest wedding planning challenge and how did you overcome it?
Because we had such a small wedding it was easier for us to manage. We did make the decision to do everything ourselves (including making 100s of paper flowers!), so a few times we needed to ask for help. Our advice would be to not get overwhelmed. If you are starting to feel overwhelmed, then you should have some close friends and family that you can lean on to help you out. Also the earlier you can get wedding tasks done the better! If you can knock out a little bit at a time then it's way less daunting.