WHY WE CHOSE TO WORK WITHIN OUR COMMUNITY
Written by Kayln Bohl
The first time Annie and I got professional photos taken together, we were traveling to New York and I wanted to explore the city with a photographer who would show us some of the best little gems around. When scouring the internet for a photographer, I focused more about their style and willingness to work with a queer couple than anything else. This was a mistake.
Sometimes it's not enough for your photographer to be inclusive- they have to "get it".
To say the least, our session was awkward. Our photographer didn't have a lot of experience working with same-sex couples and it was painfully clear- from the language that she used, the poses and placement she had us in, and the way she had us interact with one another. At times, it felt like we were taking pictures like siblings rather than an actual couple and our pictures reflected that.
Inclusivity Is Great, But It's Not Always Enough
The following year, I begged Annie to let us try again with a new photographer I had met through Instagram. I showed her all of these amazing photos she had taken and slowly but surely convinced her that this photography experience would be different- because she was queer too! We met up with Chelsey in RiNo and within a few minutes, we were both completely at ease and ready to dive in. Right off the bat, she asked us our pronouns (WIN!) and the prompts she gave us to pose with were cute, funny, and had nothing to do with what was "more masculine" or "more feminine"- they just allowed us to interact as a couple and let the chemistry flow. Sometimes it's not enough for your photographer to be inclusive- they have to "get it". After our session, Annie and I gushed to each other about how much fun we had and how comfortable we felt the whole time.
Having allies is great and absolutely necessary in the world that we live in but there's something different and magical about collaborating with the people in your community
Having allies is great and absolutely necessary in the world that we live in but there's something different and magical about collaborating with the people in your community. We created Queerly Beloved in large part because of this experience. More people deserve to have vendors from their community that just get it.