Sylvia & Katie

LONGMONT, COLORADO

"Marriage means so much to both of us. It means a lifelong commitment to love and cherish one another. It means security, emotionally and legally (which is still incredibly new and amazing). Marriage is a declaration to not only us but to the world that we are together. Marriage makes all the steps we've taken together as a couple "official". It's another step in our lifelong journey together."

Tell us your love story!

We technically met freshmen year at Syracuse University. However, we both went to the same pre-college summer program in high school at Savannah College of Art and Design. It wasn't until a few weeks into college that we realized we both attended that program the same week! We were both in the same program, same dorm (2 floors apart), and had many of the same foundation classes together. It seemed like we were destined to be together! We both clearly had feelings for each other throughout their 4 years of college, but it was very much a Ross and Rachel "will they or won't they" type of situation. It wasn't until after college graduation that we both decided to start a relationship together. Katie moved from Maine to NYC to be with Sylvia and start their life together. A few years later, we decided to move to the beautiful state of Colorado and haven't looked back!

 

We are your "non-traditional" couple in so many ways. We had a lot of ups and downs to get to where we are! From coming out together, to cross country moves, to the major world and life events, adopting animals together, etc - we've experienced quite a lot. We are the couple who started off with a solid friendship that evolved into deep love. We are each other's first same-sex relationship. We are the couple who will be your honorary moms if you need one. We're the couple who loves to explore together but can also be independent and honor each other's autonomy. We are a couple who supports each other's goals and dreams. We are great on our own, but better together. We are a couple that can't be labeled.

What was the best part of the wedding?

The best part of the wedding was seeing each other for the first time when we walked down the aisle. It was magical.

What advice would you like to impart on our Queerly Beloved readers?

Plan early if possible and make a realistic budget! Excel spreadsheets are very helpful. Instead of trying to do everything at once, find gaps in your day when you can check 1-2 things off your list. Definitely utilize planning tools like The Knot's checklist and budgeter. They really help you stay on track. Hire a wedding planner/coordinator! It was actually required in our venue's contract, but we are so glad we did it. Our coordinator helped us with so many details leading up to the wedding and the day of. They think of everything. We were able to fully enjoy our big day stress-free thanks to our coordinator. And most importantly, don't forget to take a moment with your partner to pause and take it all in. The day goes by so fast!

What traditions or rituals (if any) were incorporated into the wedding?

What traditions or rituals (if any) were incorporated into the wedding?

Katie stepped on the glass (Jewish tradition) and we also did a sand ritual, which symbolizes the coming together of two families.

Tell us about the ceremony!

Our ceremony was originally going to be outdoors with a beautiful mountainous backdrop, but the weather had a mind of its own - so we moved it indoors. The indoor loft was still lovely! Katie's father was our officiant which was really unique and special. Sylvia's grandmother was the ringbearer. Sylvia's mother read a poem about love that we picked out. We both wrote our own vows that were touching and unique to our personalities. It was a short ceremony but really beautiful. 

What was the most important lesson you learned while wedding planning? 

The biggest lesson we learned is that just because our wedding was our number one priority, doesn't mean it is everyone else's! You really have to be patient with your guests and follow up constantly. Something we learned to accept very early on is that repeating information is inevitable. People are very busy, easily distracted, and don't always read thoroughly. You have to be firm but also kind and forgiving; these are your wedding guests after all!

Vendors​

Photographer: Red Aspen Photography // @redaspenphotography 

Catering: Biscuits & Berries // @biscuitsandberries

Music: Moment's Notice Entertainment // @moments.notice.entertainment

Venue: Crooked Willow Farms // @crookedwillowevents

Flowers: Reverie Floral // @reverie_floral

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